Swimming : my journey !

There are some days in your life where you just want to shout at the top of your voice and say "oh my god! i made it " !!! today is one such day for me ... 28 th feb 2012 !!!
well ,i learnt to swim !!!!! oh my god! i  know swimming now !!!

i have been gleeing ever since i came from pool today , and i just cant contain my excitement ! yieppeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!i was really never  sure if i could ever swim ! ... but when i got into the water today  , i was able to some how manage without a tube / board , and then within minutes i realised even without my own knowledge that i was "actually " not depending on the board / tube...i was gleeing away to glory !... All these days i was going on checking you tube ,watching and  listening to what people were telling  about their swimming experiences , and wondered will a day ever come for me , where i would actually swim !!!
Well , to all the people who knows swimming and who are reading this , i hope u understand how i feel now , because am sure even u felt the same like how i feel now , when u first conquered the water ! Conquer sounds so bossy !, well i just loveeeeee water !
and to those people who are yet learning , guys ! believe me ... if u feel its tough and u are not getting it , its okay ! some people take a bit more time than others (like how i did ! )

Considering my weight and my age (both of which i cant disclose here ), i really did  take a  good number of days ...and I took so many gaps in between where i have never been to a pool , as i was so fed up "trying "!!. i got bored ! i got so bored going there every single day and then just trying to just float in water / trying to twist my body and i was like "will i EVER do this "  ??

i still remember my 1 st day (unfortunately it was many months back and hence i don't remember the date), where i was so scared of water and i was just standing on the pool . i stood there , and i noticed even the tiny tots playing and dashing in the water and i was so scared . i was scared that i would drown .. i was scared that i could never put my head inside the water .i remember my dad and mom trying to teach me(when i was a kid) and i used to scream and scream . i was  so afraid of water !.
Well,  i had to begin some where ! , hence i remember just putting my head inside the water and just "feeling the water " and i guess i was just trying to be friendly with the water.

Its true when people say "All  things are difficult before they are easy "...As a week progressed i was more confident in the water - "walking "! .. and then came the big leap -" the float ".. Well i really really dont know how many days i took to learn this . i remember my gym here , giving 5 days(30 minutes daily ) training and i had a free coupon and hence i joined there . Along with a friend ,  few strangers , i was there in the water with the trainer . It taught me one thing . I can get tips from a trainer / you tube , but its just one thing " Practice Practice , Practice " . Its all about practice and how much of dedicated time we can put to it ( Is everything in the world not like that ??? )...I was the only student in her class who didn't know how to float . So my 5 days of training was more of observing others .I practiced later after her class got over and finally some how learnt to float . i was so happy then,  i can still remember !.I was going on telling each and everybody i knew "hey i can float " "u know what, i can float "!!!hehe!!

In my class the rest of the 4 days of the 5 days class just went with me trying to do a "back float "/ rather observing others , because every one else in the class was better than me ... i was just standing there and doing nothing ! but hey i was not dejected . i was so sure that "ok, i don't know this , but am sure i will learn this one day !!" i understood that a trainer can just tell you / show u , but its us who needs to practice ...
From then on , for many days i tried doing the back float which even today am a little scared of doing . I finally thought " ok move on ", " move on to the next step" , which was trying to twist the body inside the water ..I would like to really really thank  all the people who posted in you tube the swimming techniques and various talks, because i have seen many of them and was always trying to practice like how they were doing it !..

After the body twist , and the hand movements ,came the breathing ..I was ok with this as long as i had a board / tube to help me with . I tried this for many days , and then some days (i have to be sincere , here ).. i just got so fed up !.. i was fed up of trying .Thirty minutes was all i used to spend in swimming and that thirty minutes i began to get bored ! Bored of trying and in fact grew so bored that i stopped trying altogeher !. i did work outs like tread mill and elliptical  but i didnt go to the pool at all , for days / rather i would say months ... and then when i thought that it was time for me to get into the water , i did -with all the enthusiasm and happiness and with all the excitement !!and then the biggest realisation came ! oh god! i had missed the pool !.. i was so happy to be back in the water again ! i realised that day how much i had missed swimming !.

I learnt some thing very important that day !.. We should be really passionate about what we do ! it can make a lot of difference . Initially my aim was just to "learn swim ".. i was doing this with all my body and soul , but i was aiming for the target . i forgot that "Rome is not built in a day ". When i began to get passionate about swimming , that is when it made the whole difference . i was really really enjoying my experience just by being in the water ! . i just totally loved it ! From that day on ,(though it was there at the back of my mind that i need to learn swimming ) , i was never under any pressure . i just began enjoying the days in the pool . The struggle with the water was over and i was just going with the flow !. After a lots of trials , with the side twist , the breating etc .. today .. Viola !  i am  blogging !

To all the people who are in their initial  days of their swim , always remember that your body weight or age can delay you but it can never suppress your passion and your will power . And try and try , we must ! . Its okay to take extra days / even months , but you bet , you will definitely get it one day ! Its good to turn your mind and body to some other sports too , if you get bored etc ..The break can do you good .There is no point in going to the pool feeling sad and dejected that "when will i EVER get it "!..Rather , just enjoy the "process " . i cherish the days  when i learnt the "swimming process " ..
am sure when you too will get the hang of it , you too will cherish these days ...
All the very best  newbies ! , and enjoy the ride ! Believe me , its totally worth it !

My personal take on Ra.One movie

I saw this movie RA One couple of days back and before I proceed let me put in few words. I truly like SRK, his work and personality. But I am not a blind fan. There have been many movies where I too have felt like many others that he could have done better or have not felt that magic. But this movie was somehow so special.

With all the marketing strategies for this movie by SRK, the one last thing u would want to read in this world is a review from me. But I am sorry to say guys; oops! This is indeed a review. Hence, before u read any further let me pre warn u, so that u could opt out of reading this and not feel like strangling me 

I just totally enjoyed the movie from the beginning. I was neither bored nor distracted till the end. Lots of people complained that the first 10 minutes was extremely shallow but hey , if u can recollect it was a small boy’s dream and so as adults let’s just excuse the digitals and the graphics here 
The proverbs used in the movie (quoted from V Shantaram) were so good!). These days with the movies showing drinking, rash driving, broken relationships and so much negativity, I felt this was such a big relief  , even for the the older people to get into the groove of the good - old age proverbs(and not just the kids alone !). The famous quote “Burai sang jo mel rachaya, phir kabhi naa chhute uska saaya...” (If you join the forces of evil, there is no turning around...).. Is superb!. I loved this one too “Haan. Farishtey Hote Hain”( Yes, angels do exist) and many such more …

I am not publicizing the movie and that is not my intention. To watch / not to watch a movie is a personal choice. But I loved the positivity in the movie … I loved the scene where the father Srk tries to become super hero in the eyes of his son . He just wants to impress his son so badly, and that was so cute. Even when he knew that RA one (the villain) would kill him the next moment, he admits that he is “Lucifer” (so that Ra one would not hurt his son and kill him instead!). The movie epitomizes the strong uncorrupted love of a doting father to his son .A love so incomparable and out of this world which only our parents can bestow on us and is irreplaceable. To have been blessed with such pure love from parents is truly a blessing and a gift from God.

I also loved the scene where the son says in the end that “my father would have never let the evil win” (even though the video game was designed in such a way that villain wins the game ). Somehow the son was so sure that his dad being such a nice human being would never have let the game be in  the hands of  evil.


Apart from parental sentiments, on a commercial note the movie was too entertaining with superb songs and the heroine has done more than good justice with superb acting and scintillating dance moves. The movie on the whole, displays such positive energy and ends on a positive note that I was so happy, when I walked out of the theater. (Of course, as I said previously, this is my personal take on the movie). After watching some bad movies earlier with the typical boy meets gal  types , the big fights in the dance clubs and the gal falling for the guy , the ill effects of drug usage and the guy ending in asylum, the pathetic and humiliating display by the hero , heroin and the crew to bring Hollywood culture into our very own Bollywood masala movies(!!!) , I somehow felt that RA One had a totally new and fresh approach . Such super hero movies have never been experimented in Bollywood before and hence I have to congratulate the entire team for such a big effort. I would also like to add that I had no idea about the movie, not even the story line, though I was aware that Srk has travelled far and wide to spread the message of RA One across. I could totally (in fact very easily) connect to the emotions of a doting father and a growing up son.

To distinguish the good from the bad  and  grow up to be a good super hero is what every father would want to tell their son , holding them close ; and with such strong dialogues and by portraying the roles of G one and prateek(his reel son) justice to those emotions has been done superbly . Somewhere this is what SRK himself (like any other father) would want Aryan (his real son) to be –a true super hero in real life.


Hats of to u Khan for making such a different and positive movie. We do not have many movies in Bollywood where a father can tell his son how much he loves him. It’s been a mother’s world all the while and will surely be for years to come .But the movie –Ra one had the boldness to open the door for a whole new trend in Bollywood world with a different outlook both emotionally as well as technically .

Hope not from Better to Worst !

Some times i wish life was more simple....

We live only to get the simple amenities in life like food . water , shelter , clothing with some inventions..(Ya, ok with me ! :)
Why all this education , then  the job hunt , then take stress , and going round and round in a vicious circle . Like better improvement of life means going to some developed countries , then going away from the folks u know ur kins kiths .. and then again face the competition of live ...Restrictions of moving from one country to another due to visa issues !!! i mean , why cant the world be just one happy place where people dnt even know the meaning of "violence ", and there is peace and peace every where!!!! Ya this is an "Ideal " world and our current world is not even close to ideal !!!

The rich gets richer
Poor becomes more poorer
U open the Newspaper in the morning and see and read only violence and bloodshed , or break up and gossips of film stars (Hell , who cares who they are with !!! ) and then i remember my grandma saying "open your eyes with good thoughts in mind ; now even if u do , reading all this bloodshed bullshits can really in some way cause  adrenalin to raise and trigger negative thoughts at the start of the Day !
Phew !!!!

Where are we actually heading to !!!
100  years from now on .. will our good old earth even  exist ?
Will we go back to the primitive style some day ? So much of progress happening in all the fields , i don't see any "going backwards"
But i wonder how much "MORE" can Man make his life simpler ?
We used to walk , now we have cars , buses , airplanes
We used to talk , then write letters,now emails , twitter , and does today's kids even know that their grandparents used to write letters !!! ya well , they could be learning that in the "History chapters".(But we have some a long way , and WOW!!!, its really good and appreciable . Change and development are really cool ! )

The environmentalists shout each and every day in some corner of the world saying "go green ' and we eat potato chips and say , oh.. so boring , Play some movie instead Its not that we don't care ... but i feel people have not actually given it a thought .. or they feel "What can i do " ?(well , am not doing anything about it either apart from writing this blog , to be frank ..)

We buy grocery and get lots of plastic bags ...And we come back home and just throw them in the bins !!  Where will be heading to in 100 years this way ?We will definitely not live to find out  ..but Our grand children's... I guess they will be surely having the so called "easy life" (Easy is always relative, They may find even airplanes as "Difficult"), so easy with respect to our lives , but then the beauty of nature , the fun childhood, wont they be missing a lot ? Well again "missing " is again relative but they may not even know what they are missing , so i guess it is ok ! Smiles ! Smiles ! :)

So Why do we need so much of inventions . Ok , Now talents have to be appreciated , and yes a green signal to all the inventions .. But there can be a clear "No No " to certain inventions too..?
If the so called "great findings" pose a threat to the environment , or to the human race , then why in the first place are we welcoming them at all ? Why are we we also honouring the people who made them, because it can encourage others to make stuffs like that (I don't know if this makes sense , but i was just thinking ...) !! We can use our skill sets and make cures for illness(say Cancer) but there should be some stopping when these radiations are used for destructive scientific purposes .

We do not need any more of  destructive inventions.When i say destructive i don't "only mean" an atom bomb", i also mean say a plastic bag . Ok we have polluted our Earth enough and all of us are happy with plastic bags . If we cannot use brown bags then at lest lets not waste time and money making bags which are more hazardous than the plastic bags ! from worse to worst(due to competition and industrialisation )??. A way by which we can trap the nature's resources and recycle would be like "ideal" to  preserve our  nature  our Home . We get so angry when some one spoils our home , throw away stuffs which creates bad smell, or even if objects are not rightly in place !And all the techies , does not the Earth and a home have parent child relation ! So if it effects the parent , it will in course of time (ha! thts the catch , so why bother NOW!)..effect our homes . ....Oh ! this will be one of the "most boring " stuff i have written so far .... But i will not say you guys dnt know abt this .. U guys may be even doing a research , but What  i would like to conclude is Even when it comes to technology and even a new inventions there should be someone to say "enough "(else there can never be enough , as human beings are so aspirational !) because you never know that when let out that new "whatever" ...It could be so customized by people around the globe and destroy  Our Parental Home (i mean earth :) )one day ..

Lost.....

I was watching “lost” TV series (an American serial, which won many awards), where a group of strangers get stranded in an island after a plane crash. They don’t know where they are, and they don’t know how long / how many days  it will take for them to be rescued. On top of this, there are issues like water, food and protection from wild beasts etc. . . . They also know before the crash that the plane had lost the contact with the center and so it will be so difficult for the outside world to track them.  The TV series is extremely gripping and thus the story moves on ….

All the while, one thought kept coming to my mind; When are  these guys actually happy? Was it when they got food and water, Well Definitely a big Yes, but that did not make them “Want to live “!.. They still grumbled.. It was just meeting that special someone on the island , making new friends,and the thought of going back to the people they loved which invoked the deep  urge to live and survive on that island .

Be it a lost island or be it in outer space ... Humans are so bounded by the emotions!(Why humans alone !i guess “All” ! ) They need love, care, support and they like to belong to a society and to have friends and to be wanted!!! What kept them going in that long lost island were not just the food and the water and the fact that they were brave; it’s the mere fact that, they all loved one another, found solace in each other. Some of them even met the special someone there and they felt so "wanted". To Love and to be loved is the most essential thing, as important as the food and water and it was just that mere simple fact that "kept them going”

Now in the real world, we don’t stop by  to think  the people whom we "can’t live without"! We just take them for granted. Close your eyes and imagine that all the people u love, your parents, kins.., your spouse, your kids, or friends are just not with u .Shuddering thought rite??? Now imagine the same situation with loads of money, will this make you happy ? Money can or may buy you friends but , genuine friends?, family ? .. Well i guess they are worth than a million gems  !  So at the end of the day, if u have just no one in this world to love, care nor protect  nor people to love and care  u back, it’s the same situation as being stranded on a lost island is it not ?

Respects the people who love u and care for u, and take time, to  show them that you care.

You never know how important they are to u, until they’re gone...

So take time to love and to be loved ...

Indian cinema bewitched !

I was watching a Hindi movie recently (sadly I do not get the name ), where the hero influences a heroine saying it is cool to drink on a week day and then get to work , and also to drive after that . Why ? Ya , You bet - our hero has an explanation to that “because its pure fun , and we need to drink and drive to get the real masti effect “ !!!His words are so powerful and so magical that the gal (our heroine , I didn’t think she was so dump , by her looks and her attire ), ignores her so called boyfriend , brands him as boring (because he has a routine and drinks only on weekends!!!! Is that not enough ), and “Enjoys life “(If so called drinking daily and driving with a reeling head can be called so ...)…I did not understand what the director was trying to prove there ? To enjoy life we should not have a routine ?? to enjoy life one needs to use alcohol daily ? we need to drink and drive .. Ya, kill ourselves we will , but we can also knock down someone on the road too.. I didn’t get the logic at all .. Anyways the movie ended with a note happily ever after , and I have nothing against the movie . But I didn’t agree with the movie’s scripts .After all powerful , meaningful ,clear dialogues are still enjoyed by many apart from music and dance! .


Cinema is meant to be for fun , but don’t the directors get this; There are millions of people idolizing their dream hero’s and their ravishing heroines. So MOVIE is not just a form of entertainment, but something more than that. When a movie gets released, it is with the same enthusiasm that a villager or a person from a city enters the hall. . This is true , we wait for days for a movie release and do take out time to watch that movie . Kids are no less . They in fact get more excited to catch a glimpse of their super star and carefully note their accent , their costumes , their styles etc …An average movie hits the market and reaches out to millions and millions of people in towns, cities , villages.


I am not saying that every movie has to convey a message, ok well if it can then Excellent !. But messages in movies are too much to ask for these days ..! In India we have lot of channels and programmes revolving around Cinemas , may be more than the number of news channels. After a tiring day a kid is more interested to sit back and watch a movie than know what is happening in India or abroad. If the kid can get the good from the bad then she will know that “ hey drinking is bad for health. Teacher told me that we should never drink and drive. This is dangerous. Life is not about talking back to parents or not taking responsibilities.. Or is it , hmm, “” . Now, I am not at all surprised if at least 10 of the 100 children who watch hindi movies , these days think this way and getting confused !…


In most of the movies , the heroines have to drink (forget the guys drinking , it’s too casual and ordinary ), guys have to bleed the villains to death , , they have to be bad and impolite ,and not do well in studies etc. etc. … and not to mention the pub culture (shown in a very bad way )etc.. But the point is , there is too much of western influence in the movies these days. We at this age, can say from the good and the bad, Someone from the college, a student , of course can.. But think of a girl or a boy whose middle class parents work day and night and have no time to actually “see” what this guy is eyeing in movies. They may think after all its just a movie..! But hey NO, There are no ratings for the movies like they have in the English movies. All the Indian movies are of general category!!! Ok , so now the kid may think its cool to drink and drive ,to beat up people , be confused , and irresponsible just to idilosie the characters they love in the movies!. He may get highly tempted to try out and booze with his friends at a very early stage of his school life .


Now, analysis 2-A normal Indian kid (I meant financially) has to strive through all the competitions and tension to get a good job .We forget that India is still a developing country. True, India is progressing at a high rate. But yes, we have still not reached a phase where we can proudly say that there is not single family in our country who do not have 3 sumptuous meals a day . In the midst of all this, the directors bring about these confusing concepts, and influence kids at a large scale . After all a gangster is not born in a day . Blurred thoughts and a confused outlook towards life , with no proper guidance can mislead the YOUNG MINDS into wrong paths.



Just like Politics and Press, Cinema is highly influential and something which is looked upon by a large audience. When we say that Politics or Press has got responsibility, why do we forget that directors also should have some moral obligations towards the people of our Country? It is ok to ape the west, but then why can’t we take their good things, TOO!!!. Why can’t there be 1 good movie which conveys their punctuality and their dedication towards work .Why can’t they put the message across the people of India that in THE West , drink and drive is a criminal offence and you will be penalized like hell , If you ever break the Rule ,You are restricted from driving may be throughout your life , and hey rules are rules, one must follow them . If you get caught for drugs , people are send to jails for years and years and the price they pay for their misconduct are too high ! Most of the western countries deny citizenship if a person is caught with enough evidences ..How many kids in India know all this?


Our country has got a beautiful culture and the foreigners look forward to us, when they talk about family and relationships. I do not deny any of them. Most of us are extremely close to our families. We value our traditions. And then comes the villain like directors who brings out and highlight matters which are not at all relevant to the movie or to the time we live for a mass of audience . How many of us drink liquor daily , break rules daily , drink and drive etc .just on the basis of fun ! .Why do we high light so much on the drinking alcohols, or drugs, or violence unnecessarily . Just show only what is required for the movie. Why the hype ?and they end the movie with a happy note which could some where trigger some wrong brain cells in kids . The movies these days do not depict a common man’s India .



A poor man ‘son may get awed by the onscreen alcohol or the drug usage and may feel sad that he has no money to buy them. A rich man’s son has enough awareness of its implications to his health. But think about a middle class or less than an average family. Can his parents always protect him from knowing which is good and the bad or have enough oratory or influencing skills to brain wash his kids to protect him from the bad!



We know that most of the things which happen in the movies do not happen for real .We also put a note in you tube when we hear good old songs and movies as “good old days “, because we loved the movies where we could match and be like hero or heroine of that period. Now a days , movies potray a heroine as some one whom a normal indian girl just cannot compare to . The way the hero talks ,or his mannerism are not the way a normal guy in the city would do . So we as audience fall far behind the dreamy characters that they play . An average Indian knows that all this is just “maya “ or a foam which we need to forget once we leave the theatre, and there is nothing to take back from the movie . The movie was ‘just fun “ But let’s not forget to think and criticize when we hear meaningless scripts



The sensor boards should take serious actions in this regard. The script writer can show his responsibility towards his job, by not spreading wrong messages through his scripts if not a good script !. But more than ever , I would say that a hero should at least have the guts to speak up and say that “hey , is this line really required here , can we change this line slightly “and he should be given this flexibility and freedom . After all a hero/ heroine has the moral obligation to his devoted fans for their love and support. The media who can hype to any extend to get a good public attention can protest against the irrelevant and dirty usage of dialogues. If not a revolution, at least awareness can be created in a huge scale .In the West, the kids are the most protected lot. Why? Because they are the future of a nation , and they like to see their future bright .So if we are actually aping the west , then don’t we all also have the responsibility to protect our children from the compelling clutches of the reel world !

Evolution : Daughter to a Mother

Nitya was very silent . She felt very sad . she was the best daughter any parent would want to have . Then why were her parents always cribbing and complaining ? She felt irritated .
She opened her books to study . Her mother called her down for helping her with cooking . Grumbling , she walked down stairs and thought , Neeta never does any cooking at home . Her mom pampers her so much . They get her any thing she demanded and she does not even study well !

Her mother was casually talking while her mind roamed around her other friends . Padma! God! She even has a boy friend and her parents take it so lightly . how can they ? are they not worried or bothered about her ? Will my parents be ok if I take some one home ? Nitya was 100% sure her dad would throw her out of the house .

It was not that she was unhappy .She loved her family and would do anything to make them happy . Just anything in this world .But her parents never appreciated her . Never ever ! Not even once ; at lest she didn’t remembered any .
They loved her and adored her , she knew that , but she wished one day they would pat her back when she came first in her class, pamper her with toys or not scold her if she dropped curry on the table top and ........................

She felt so jealous of her cousin . Her aunt boats about how she tidies up her room , folds her own clothes, and how good she is in studies . Why ? What’s so great about it ? why is her aunt always boasting about her daughter ? She always did all this work every single day of her life but never seen her mother even hinting about any of this , to a single soul!

She looked at me and asked me “common u tell me , what is really so great about folding clothes or cleaning a tea cup ? !! “
Heeee , I giggled and to our bad luck , Miss betty heard us and shouted “You girls seems to have better topics to concentrate . Please go out , finish that and come inside “.. hmmmm… We marched outside classroom ….Well it was ok for us . This was not the first time we were shown the door . Well , I felt really sorry that I was laughing (not for going out of the class ! anyways class was always so boring . Why cant the teachers ever make it more interesting ? ) at nithya . But it was so obvious that she was so jealous . Her jealousy showed on her face and i couldnt help laughing . I knew her dad and mom . I didn't know what to say . I couldnt have to give her a study class on how all parents loved their kids . That would be so insulting .She would kill me surely . Nithya knew all that far too well . Her parents would just die for her .I really didn’t know how to comment on such topics. It was too sentimental and so i casually brushed aside the situation remarking that she was taking it all too seriously and may be her love for her family has got on her nerves . Well what else could i have told her ??

Summer holidays set in , and I had invited all my friends to my home to stay for some days .Nithya was over joyed. She loved my mom and dad , and had an excellent rappo with my grandparents . She made friends with all my cousins and her face was glowing with happiness. We all had a blast . We stayed up late , ordered food home , played the DJ music, danced , roamed around lots of near by places . It was as if my parents never existed . They were too cool anyways . In fact they too enjoyed our company and became one among us those five days .

"This is one thing I dont get in my house neeta … “ and I thought what !! ?? “ “parents , cousins, grandparants , food , what was she missing at her home “ !!!. Though she is my best friend ,she is sometimes like a tangled puzzle to solve .I couldn’t force her and she wouldn’t talk either . I gave a nod on my head and kept my mouth shut which was the best thing to do , when u don’t know what u ought to do !!!.

Finally , the day came when all my friends had to go back to their respective houses . I was surprised .! Nitya was so upset . This was not a “bidai ceremony “ but she literally hugged every one and even shed few tears . Now this was too much for me . What was she up to ?? is there any cousin brother of mine whom she was aiming at ? No !she was not that type anyways and besides she would go only for the person chosen by her dad .
Why was she so emotional then ?“Oh ! why does she always makes situations so dramatic! “ she should try her hand in movies .I was surprised that she even shed few tears . May be a carrer in movies was not a bad option for her at all .She was going back to her own house , and I didnt totally understand what was the need for such a melodrama , back home .

I accompanied her back to the bus stand , and I was teasing her how she trapped all my parents with her undying love and affection . She was still sad !!.
Hey common , now this was too much . I felt that she was insulting her parents in someway and got annoyed too . God! Why was she irritating some times .
Her bus came , and she boarded into the bus .I sat next to her to give her company till the bus took off trying to cheer her up .

She thanked me profusely for calling her over to my house . she told me how much she loved my family . How much freedom she had in these 5days with my family . She said there was totally no tension in my house and that she felt completely relaxed . It’s ok if we all didn’t get up at sharp time in the morning . It’s ok if we didn’t wash our hands after food , sat there and laughed. It’s ok to talk about guys . It’s ok to cling on mobiles for long long time . It’s ok If we didn’t help in kitchen . It’s ok if we didn’t take bath the first thing in the moring . It’s ok… God !!! She was now talking no stop and the list was endless .

The bus took off and I bid her good bye .Though she was highly irritating some times , she was an extra nice girl , and I adored her and was proud that she was my Best friend. What was all that she was talking about ? Were her parents so strict ?? Is it wrong to be strict then . Its for her own good anyways .? May she was over reacting , and yes grass is always green on the others side ;’I loved her parents , and she mine .
I laughed and could only describe her acts as chidish .

School ,College ...time just flew .

After 5 years of battling wth books , I am now a renowned doctor with a comfortable living . Now ,my parents were worried about my marriage and getting the perfect guy seemed more complex that completing my medical courses .My friend Nitya was soon to be married and I was thrilled that she was moving over to my place after her marriage. Marriage went on grand and she soon was my neighbour .

Its heaven, I tell you , when u have Ur best friend as ur neighbour .I come back after a heavy day and unwind myself to her . She is an exceptional cook and i love her pokkoras(a food item).
Soon it was D day for me , and I too soon crafted a nice niche for myself . From the start ,like arranging a carpet in the drawing room , till pillow covers , dishes ,to making my bed , I found everything so difficult ! Then came the big task – cooking .! I wondered how nithya managed to make it look all too easy . I never heard her once complaining about her house hold activities . Besides she was working too . How ever did she manage all this , so perfectly , so elegantly !.

And then one day , I called it quits . It was getting too much for me . i just couldnt handle my house any more . No matter how much i cleaned the house, it always looked dirty . Am a doctor , who wanted it tip top and sparkling clean at the hospital and my own house seemed to look like a cow shed . Just then nithya came with her good old smile and I just had to ask her this Question . How ?? Nithya gave all the credits to her mom and dad . They had made her to take up small tasks all the while even from chilhood that its all part of her life now .She does not feel all this as “work’ any more . She told me it was as easy and essential as breathing .!

She helped me with cleaning that day , but of course I didn’t allow her to do much work , not because she was “another girl “ but she was an expecting mother and I was too thrilled , in fact as excited as she was .

I feel life after a baby is born is something which can never be explained or described in words Its just far more than all that . U have to be extra cleaner , keep changing diapers , lack of sleep etc etc . But still it was so much fun . I could see a constant glow on nithya’s face .I too was learning a lot from her .

How the days passed by , she will surely not know ; but that kid was the light of my life and I too was so attached to jeena . Jeena was beautiful and at the same time smart and cute . She was a rare blend and I just loved her . Nithya as a typical mother was strict when it came to basic house hold work and as expected she didn’t spare Jeena . I couldn’t interfere too .Managing house hold activities had been my biggest failure when I had got married and I too was insistent , that Jeena learn it little by little ,starting from her early day’s .

One day I met the mother and the daughter outside my hospital , vey surprisingly . Jeena was excited as she was elected as the class representative of grade 5 and I too joined them for a small party . Nithya proudly spoke about her daughter and how well she managed the class when a teacher was not around ,and went on to say how good a girl she was and also that she was incharge for her classmates on a trip which they were going the coming week .

My thoughts were “Common nithya , she is just in fifth grade . How can she manage the class ? Obviously it would be the teachers and other staffs . Just because her daughter is a class rep… , GOD ! Why was she over reacting ! ? ""Suddenly , I remembered our childhood days , and about her boasting aunt.
Well I guess all the parents were just the same when it came to their own kids ! and I smiled .
Nithya caught me just in time and read my mind . Well , I guess when some one is there with you for so long and she happens to be ur best frined, I shouldnt be surprised .She always catches my mind in action and can even predict what was going through those cells . And am supposed to be the doctor here . But i loved her anyways ...She was a gem .

We were walking back , and jeena went to play . Nitya said “Neetu , am not praising jeena and spoiling her . I never got a word of praise from family and I crave for it even till this day. May be they thought i was too naive and could get spoiled or that i couldnt handle appreciaton properly or that it may get into my head .What ever the reason was , sometimes I feel they were true too . They knew me well . Of course I am careful that i do not over do it for jeena , but I really want to give her the appreciation and the freedom . I thank my parents profusely for what I am today , but I want to give her what I missed the most in my life .A mother always wants the best for their kids , but yes after going through years of parenting , I still may not be able to own up as a best mother . Jeena still could have compliants , later on .I express my love sincerely and openly to her , pamper her and yet at the same time i want to make her smart , independent , a good human and prepare her well for today's world .

Parenting is very tough task Neetu , and once you go through it u too will know .It is like Music where u need to get the correct blend of the ragas . It may turn out to be an extrodinary piece of art for years to come; well appreciated by many , an ordinary work of music or might even be withered and dead lying there untouched and least recognized if we do not give them the right polish where and when required . Or is music is too much to be compared with ; after all there are no exact parenting classes . Every parent grows with their kid .

You have to be good and timid at the same time and pulling it all through is sometimes really tough.I will always try to put up a good show and jeena could still rate me as a not so good mother , later on . I do not know and I realy do not care . What it matters to me today is that my kid gets the best of everything and i want to support and care for her , just like how our parents have done for us , all the while . I shall struggle , no matter how bumpy the ride is just to make sure that years later she is happily settled and independent . I would be there with her all the way till then ". Nithya was not so sure if i understood what ever she was telling me , but looking at her eyes , i knew she was getting very emotional .

Well , Nithya was wrong . I totally knew and understood her . She made an excellent mother and she was right . Parents never demand or even expect to be rated , if they were good , better , bad or what ever . We are a part of them and nothing in this world can change that . We would have done uncountable mistakes and got punished from them ,and even been forgiven by them .So when we become successful , rich and independent ,We should not wait even for a single moment to brush off any scars (if any ) caused by them in our making .After all they have always wanted the best for us. We are them , and they are us .

A parting note to a friend!!

Some people…some very special people …
They just touch u in such special ways
That they live the mark till the end of life!!!


I don’t want to tell u a thank u, dear friend!!!
I don’t want to tell u a good bye!!
I just want to be there for u, when ever u need me!!!

For what u have done for me,
For what u were for me ,
U r, and will always be special

At the corner of my heart which shares the deepest of my deepest feelings
U ll b always treasured …
More precious than a jewel
More precious than the precious things …


As I walk further I meet new faces
New destinies, new fears, fresh joys…
I search for such a long lost friend
In the deepest of my sorrows...
Thinking that u will come from no where
Just to hold me and say “It’s all rite “
Just to let me know that life is still young
And life is still with me!!!

As I walk further, destinies change and I grow strong
Hope a stage never comes that…
I was needed, when I couldn’t be there..
I wanted to be there, but just couldn’t be there..

Still my dear friend, I want u to know that..
In some ways I had always cared for u …
I had always liked u …
A silent prayer was always there for u
That no matter where ever u r, what ever u do
B the same u r!!! Let smile b there always in ur life!!!