Saturday, May 29, 2010

who is more luckier ?

i remember this day in my school when 3 of us close friends, decided that we bunk an important exam .Reason ? simple ..we hadn't studied .
the day before the exam , some how my friend got this sensible thought (or non sense ) -what ever , that it is very wrong of us to bunk an exam as we had been in the good books of teacher's always . She calls me up and gives me a philosophical lecture that it is ok to fail but try , we must .She convinced both of us somehow and promised that she would be there for the exam on time , without fail .Most of u , reading this will (or could ) think of us as nerds as there could be many of u ,who would have just missed exams . Well , i can only tell u guys , i don't know about the "nerd part " but i really dont have an explanation for this . Knowing 100% that we shall fail , we still some how didnt "feel right or ethical " to bunk an exam where our teacher took lots of stress teaching and setting up a good question paper .
Well,my friend and i were dump struck when we dint find the person who convinced us to write the exam , the next day morning !!.
my anger had totally no senses .It was as if a third eye was opened and i was waiting to burn her into ashes . it was too late to turn back so we both attended this exam some how ...
I can never ever forget this day in my life .After the exams , the first thing i did was to find a telephone booth .i called her up and before she could say anything, not even a single word, i gave her left and right !.. i have never been so upset in my life! (Well, if life meant the short span from my birth till that date ! ). how could she cheat me .i was fuming when she just said "my dad passed away last night due to heart stroke and just broke into tears" .

i didnt know how to react ! My friend who was with me also shared same emotions as i had . I cried , on the way to meet her . She lost her dad and here i was , thinking mean things about her . I hated myself ..I didnt trust my friend! how shameful! .
I walked into her room and she just ran into my arms crying .. and i was standing there holding her in the midst of grief and guilt .!
Years later , even now, she is one of my closest friend and most of my good old friends crown me as a trustful and patient friend. i guess every relation do matures and grows with age .Well , what had gone wrong that day ? i couldn't tolearte the fact that she broke my trust ? Or was it because i gave lots of importance to exams ? . or was it my immaurity , childishness or foolishness .Truly speaking ,i do not wish to justify my act .i had been a bad person to even think bad about a good friend . That was it .
i flung my exams terribly , got a bad report card and do not wish to quote on the troubles which followed , because some how they were nothing compared to the pain which my friend was going through at that time ...
It was then that i overheard some of my classmates remarking how lucky my friend was as she missed the test .After all she didn't have a bad report card .i was surprised to hear this but yes there were few who didn't know of the sad demise of her dad . NO !!! i couldn't turn around and walk, hearing this remark . i told them the matter and left them shocked .

years later , i still remember how, some of my friends marked her as "lucky" bz we all flunked in a test .. GOD ! how unlucky she was to loose her father at such a young age . he was the pillar of support for her . She had so many dreams as she came from a very conservative background and her dad was the only person who understood and supported her all the while thru ..
well, it was "us' who were lucky that rainy day when we were following our parents back home with a bad report card and she , her dad to the graveyard to pay her last respects. We lost a paper , a very important paper and she lost her father . The loss was immense for all of us but incomparable .
some times , things are not what it looks like . We may look at a person and remark "wowo he is so lucky " but we may never know . He surely will have some tensions which u are not aware of : after all there are lots of people in this world who are not comfortable sharing their problems with others , even with their closest friends. They would just like to keep it to them selves.
The people whom we consider lucky may surely be having issues which could be more trivial than your's.
Well , cant help comparing and expecting as humans , right ?then how do u find happiness and contentment .Gandhi ji has written "when u feel low , look around to some one who is less fortunate than u r , then u will find ur sorrows winding away ".. Well , i dnt know if it's ok to look at that person and feel good or to sympathise with his situation but i do know that when we mark some one as lucky and wish that our life was like "that person " there would be lots of people out there who may think that u are more luckier than them , and waiting for a chance to live "UR LIFE ".So , even in the worst of worst situations , we all are , in some ways "lucky" . Don't u think so ?

5 comments:

Sujesh Menon said...

'Be kind, for every one you meet is fighting a great battle of his own.' - Philo of Alexandria

manjusha said...

wowow! i loved that ! :)

laxmi said...

Nice to see you digging up memories.
Now, why not try writing about something general?
Would keep the read interesting.
keep blogging :)

Prasanth R Krishnan said...

Excellent write-up...made me very emotional...write something lighter next time... :)

Jihan Riyas said...

Well I have no words to express my feelings.Your blog brought tears to my eyes and I feel a deep pain in my heart now as I move down the memory lane ten years back.Yes that unlucky friend of yours was unfortunately ME.But I definitely have no doubts that I am LUCKY in having got a friend like YOU whose supported and been there for me at all important turnig points of my life.THANK YOU.....